High Conflict Divorce

Not all disagreements create a high conflict divorce. In nearly every divorce or dissolution, there is some point when the parties have a disagreement about something. One spouse might object to the valuation of a home improvement project while in another case, two parents may disagree about whether their children should attend public school or private school. However frustrating these disagreements may be at the moment, these types of disputes often work themselves out once the parties establish open lines of communication and have some time to reflect on the issues underlying the disagreement.

Christopher M. Alexander has extensive experience with a wide variety of family law matters and is a skilled problem-solver. When you need guidance from an experienced family law attorney, call Christopher M. Alexander at (513) 228 – 1100, mobile (513) 226 – 8489, or email him at Chris@awklegal.com.


What is a High Conflict Personality?


If you run a Google search for high conflict personality, you will find a list of character traits which describe a person with a high conflict personality as a person who has:

  • Exaggerated emotions

  • Repeatedly inappropriate behavior

  • A penchant for turning minor problems into major disputes

  • A need to always have someone to blame


Whether you are litigating a divorce or attempting to negotiate a dissolution with a spouse who has a high conflict personality, you will have to develop strategies for communicating effectively with your spouse in such a way that does not give them the opportunity to raise the level of conflict.


In My Firm, I Establish Group Rules for Communication

with High Conflict Personalities and their Attorneys


When you know that you are dealing with a person who is prone to instigate conflict, your first instinct might be to avoid contact with that person altogether; however, you may not be able to do so if you are attempting to negotiate a divorce or dissolution or if you are legally obligated to co-parent minor children with the person. Here are some tips that you can both agree to use to set the ground rules for communication:

  • Limit your interactions to written communication, with the exception of any kind of emergency that involves the child.

  • No use of degrading language, name calling, criticism or profanity under any circumstances

  • No placing blame

  • Deal only with present situations

  • Once the parenting time schedule has been agreed upon, avoid making any changes to it

  • Make parenting time exchanges in a neutral, public place to diminish the opportunity for creating a dramatic scene


Realize that you may have to set personal boundaries too when it comes to dealing with a high conflict person. Especially in parenting situations, rather than investing your energy in trying to win the battle with your spouse or former spouse, try to focus your attention on making sure you are meeting the needs of your children. It takes two to have a conflict and if one party chooses to disengage from the conflict, the other party will have no one to fight with.

Get Experienced Legal Help if Your Spouse has a High Conflict Personality

Do not try to deal with a high conflict divorce, dissolution or post-decree matter on your own or with an attorney who is not experienced in litigating contentious cases. Christopher M. Alexander makes it a goal to find constructive ways to lower the level of conflict for clients during divorce, dissolution and other family law disputes. When you need a skilled and experienced family law lawyer, call Christopher M. Alexander at (513) 228 – 1100, mobile (513) 226 – 8489, or email him at Chris@awklegal.com.

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